Motivation Mondays: Bitter Pills

The Bitter Pill

MINI-SERIES: Dream Snatchers

Bitter Pills


I talk a lot on this blog about reaching for your dreams, and believing  in your purpose. I also try to encourage you to not be so hard on yourself, and give yourself a break from time to time. Changing our perspective and moving forward in life can be challenging on its own.  But what do you do when you’re trying to have a positive outlook on life and there’s a negative person (I call them dream busters), hangin’ around?

I’m not talking about the occasional run in with a short-tempered driver sitting behind you at a stop light or the cashier at your favorite grocery store who seems to be in a perpetually bad mood.  I’m referring to those negative people that for whatever reason share a more personal space with you. Take your pick, but it’s usually someone that you’re obligated to be around (family member, coworker, old friend). Most are cut from the same cloth. They are generally happy when you fail. Miserable when you succeed and would rather throw a bone than a sincere compliment if they knew it could help you. They’re usually the ones that have an uncanny ability to take you to the edge while simultaneously sucking all the good air out of a room. If you don’t have anyone in your life like this, you usually know a friend of a friend who does.

It’s easy to walk away from an annoying person on the street, but not so easy when you’re attached to them by those invisible obligatory strings. Growing up my mother use to always say, “Never let anyone steal your joy”, but the funny thing is, often negative people don’t have to steal anything from us because we give it to them freely. We don’t even put up a fight for what rightfully belongs to us, our peace. I have experienced this in my own life on more than one occasion, and I want you to be able to recognize it for what it is and not give it more emotional space than it deserves.

Listen, I’ve been called idealistic, too positive, blah, blah, blah, but don’t let anyone fool you. That’s just a cop out. Life is tough, and it’s easier to swallow that bitter pill and act just like “them” than it is to stand your ground and demand your right to be  happy, to dream, to go against the grain and make a difference. We only have one life, our life. Only those who honor it as such have a right to share in it.

Life’s pills (obstacles) come in all shapes, sizes, and flavors,  including bitter human. Just remember that even the worst ones can make you stronger.

(Read my post on Walking Through Fear to find out what to do when “you” become your own bitter pill.)

Enjoy your week, my friend!

Keep doin’ what you love,




  • Karla says:

    Great analogy! I have two in laws and a friend who are very much like this, I find it suffocating and horribly I cannot be around them all that often because I become a mess! Small doses of bitter pills are handle able!

  • Tara Karmas says:

    LOVE! I came late for the message but came out FULL! Thank you again! Sometimes, unfortunately some of these people become a little too stifling to your dreams and just your being as a whole and you need to cut them out of your life. Again, unfortunate, but true and I’m speaking of even those we are obligated to have in our lives…sometimes we have to let them go and suffocate themselves so that we can breathe again! Thanks again though for the undercover ministry posed as a creative blog (SMILE)–be BLESSED!

    • Shannon_CC says:

      Yes, Tara, I totally agree. There are times when we have to let the bitter pills in our lives go (been there too). Never fun, but sometimes necessary.

  • Jacqueline Mukweto says:

    You are spot on! This was on my mind this week. It is so so so true that we often give away our joy or let people crush or excitement for life. Thanks for this post!

  • Priscilla McKnight-Randle says:

    YES!!!!!!!!!!! YESSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!! and YES again!!!!!!!

    • Shannon_CC says:

      I take it you are familiar with those bitter pills, Priscilla? 🙂

      • Priscilla McKnight-Randle says:

        More familiar than I would like to be – and sadly – a LOT closer to home than I desire. But alas – they keep me on my face. So alas, purpose in all things.

  • kim o Alabama says:

    I really needed this today. Just came across it on Pinterest. The weight of the negative person in my life sucks the life out of me. And I cant very well stay away. Its my Mom. Thanks again.

  • Brittany says:

    Yes! You are so right! It takes extra effort to be happy and positive when dealing with a bitter person! It is easier to become bitter just like them. You can’t let someone else’s negative attitude make you become the very person that is bringing you down. 🙂

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