It’s fascinating how love works. If it’s planted into the fertile soil of a child’s heart, there are no limits to how much that love can grow. It’s like a single droplet of rain in the ocean. Once it falls in, it just becomes a part of something bigger than itself with no beginning and no end.
Parents, by far, are the most influential people in a child’s life. Whether good or bad, a parent’s presence or absence (physical or emotional) will leave an indelible mark on a child that can last a lifetime. We are their first teachers, influencers, cheerleaders, and friends. The very foundation of their lives is based on the building blocks that we provide.
I think a lot about this when it comes to our children. I want them to know what it means to love life and love others without becoming jaded by the hard knocks that are sure to come.
I want them to know that they won’t always be happy because happiness depends on the “right” circumstances, but that they can always have joy because it’s a much deeper feeling that originates on the inside of us and has nothing to do with what’s going on around us.
I want them to know within the deepest core of who they are that they are absolutely beautiful not because they are a certain size, shape, age, gender or ethnicity, but because God created them, and that’s more than enough.
I want them to know that they are loved unconditionally, and that while mom and dad don’t always get it right, the God that we believe in and serve does, and that’s all that matters.
Instilling values into our children is not always the easiest thing to do because of the society that we live in. For every good seed that you plant into their hearts, it seems like there are 100 weeds trying to wrap around that seed’s potential to suffocate it and keep it from growing.
Thankfully, the good things that we deposit into our children have an excellent chance of growing if we continue to stand before them as a constant reminder that we are here for them and that their life matters to us.
Engage. Find a way to get their attention. Let them know that they have value.
When kids are young, it’s fairly easy to engage because up until a certain age, their world revolves around you. You’ve been their source for everything. They’re attached at the hip. But, as they get older, and become more independent, their interests outside of you begin to expand and all of a sudden, they’re off doing their own thing and running into influences (sometimes not so good) that vie for their attention. What do you do then?
You go find them, of course! As a general rule, once kids get passed the age of 8 or 9, parents are no longer parents, they’re aliens. Make that “weird aliens” who want nothing more than to monopolize all of their free time by talking about life :-). So, it goes without saying that if you’re going to connect with a child that doesn’t want to be connected to, you’re going to have to be clever.
HERE’S A SUGGESTION:
AND IF THAT DOESN’T WORK:
The whole idea here is to keep trying. Sometimes things will be smooth sailing, but other times you will have to look for them, wave your arms frantically to get their attention and then be willing to chase them if you have to. We have to let our children know that we are in it for the long haul. Society is fickle which they will find out soon enough, but ultimately, they’ll remember that you have been their constant. They may be past their childhood and on their own before they can really grasp the depth of a parent’s love, but they’ll get it.
Everyday that I look at my children I am reminded of the blank canvas that was placed into my hands when they were born. I am not the artist, but they are the masterpiece. It is our hope, that they’ll allow our love for them to color their canvas from the inside out.
Enjoy your week.
Keep doin’ what you love!
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