Moms Know Moms Day 18: Lakshmi

Tell us a little bit about yourself and your family life.

I must have been a very confused child, and reflecting back,… oh yes I was!
Graduated in commerce, was fascinated towards computers and did a diploma and masters in computers, worked as a software engineer until my daughter arrived. I just couldn’t leave her and go back to office, so I quit my 9-6 job. Loved dressing her up and wanted her to be unique so I started making dresses for her. In pursuit of perfection, I took up a diploma in pattern making. Now, enough of my professional qualifications and their history. My loved ones circle is small, my little sister, hubby, mom and of course my darling daughter Adithi.

Adithi's Blog ButtonWhat’s the name of your blog/website? What is the significance of the name (How does it reflect you as a person or what you stand for?) How long have you been blogging?

Adithi’s Amma Sews is my website and it clearly explains itself. My darling daughter Adithi has been my inspiration, muse and special meaning to my life. Amma means Mom in My mother tongue. So, Adithi’s Amma Sews !
Her arrival woke up the dormant seamstress in me and it has been awake as ever henceforth ! 6 years since I had started blogging and 3 years since it became and its tutorials are popular as ever and gets me the hits even during absence of new posts.

For many, sewing/crafting is a big part of who you are as a person. Why is “creative expression” important to you and how has it affected the quality of your life?

I guess I am a typical Right Brained person, which explains me spending hours on end in a craft work which possibly could even be effective and cheaper if I buy it from elsewhere. But no, me being me, I love the high that DIY gives…and don’t mind spending hours together to see the thought taking shape and turn into reality, right in front of my eyes, made by my very own hands. It might sound like a cliche but Sewing is in fact Therapy for me and an addiction I don’t mind having. The satisfaction that it gives is immense and is matchless.

Working inside or outside of the home (or running a blog or website on a part to full time basis) can be especially tough Adithis Love Dressbecause of the difficult choices we have to make with how to divide our time between work and family. Have you ever felt guilty about the choices you’ve made, and what advice would you give to someone struggling with those same types of feelings?

I had been burdened with guilt on many days in past years. But of late, I have worked on walking the fine line and establishing balance between family time, domestic time and crafty time. Not perfect yet, but surely on the right track. In case you feel guilty, don’t regret, it is indeed ok to feel guilty rather than feeling nothing at all. Slow down and take time to rethink your timelines and remember any creative work must give you joy and sheer happiness. If it doesn’t then its time to sort things out and as Tim Gunn would say, “make it work” to your favour.

If you’ve transitioned from hobbyist to business woman, what made you take the leap? What has been your greatest challenge? What has been your greatest reward?

Adithis Card HolderI am still in the transition phase. I have my etsy shop and do take custom orders on adithisammasews as well. But it is actually very few and far spaced among them. Sewing is a physically tiring activity and hence can’t do in large scale. I am still banging my brain every night as to how do I get around to establishing my own online boutique, with couture clothing options for kids and ladies. I have spent many sleepless nights, hoping to get blueprint of a business plan soon. The greatest reward from whatever little business I have done is definitely the feedback from a satisfied client. Once a bride had mailed back thanking me for making her special day even more special in her pretty outfit that I had made. It made my entire week 🙂

For most moms, multitasking is synonymous with motherhood. What’s been your biggest personal challenge with juggling so many things? Have you found a way to stay balanced? If so, what are some of your strategies?

Multitasking is one quality that becomes part of you once you become a mother and nature nurtures this quality in you in a very short span of time. “Me time” is what I lose out on mostly in the process of juggling things and trying to balance it out for everyone in the family and my hobby. Would love to take a break at least once a week, to do things I just love,like reading a book in a nook without breaks, travelling from terminal to the other in the LRT just gazing at the busy world outside, learn something new every month, new language, cuisine… Oh yes travel, I love travelling and seeing new places, hoarding fabrics… All of these on my wish list take a backseat whether I like it or not, but I am still trying …. Hope it all gets sorted soon, so no strategy as yet to share from my end, but more than open to receive your ideas on this … Readers help me in time management when my requirement is like more than 26 hours a day to do all that I want to do !

Finding the time to mother AND craft or sew can be a big challenge. How do you carve out time to create? When your Adithis Mehendi Dresschildren nap or are at school? Or have you found other ways to “sneak in” some time?

When Adithi was young it was mostly nap time. For past 3 years though it is mosty when she is in school or busy with dad during weekends

What’s the best mom advice you’ve ever received?
Be a hands-on mom, every child is unique!

In terms of family, career and motherhood, how do you define success?

For me motherhood comes first. I am very partial to my daughter compared to the rest of my family. Everyone and everything else can wait. Then comes family. Success on these two personal domains is synonymous to being there for them when they need it and still downplay it to let them have a feeling of self-sustainability is the benchmark I guess. Now does that make any sense? I can be too complex with my sentences at times when things just whizz past my little brain and defining success is one such thing. As regards career, if I enjoy whatever work that I do and make a difference to my end client and still make enough bucks to travel the world, then I would be Successful in my own eyes !

How has being a mom changed your life perspective?

Being a mom is a blessing. Life has changed radically and for good. Gave me strong purpose of living. Being responsible for a person’s life and having the challenge to groom them well to be loving humans and responsible citizens and be honest in this big and at times bad world, is such a demanding task, which is well rewarded by the love your offspring showers on you !Adithis Mom and me skirtLine-2Lakshmi, thank you for sharing with us today.

You can find Lakshmi at Adithi’s Amma Sews, Etsy and Facebook.

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