Tell us a little bit about yourself and your family life?
I am married to my best friend, Denny. I’ve known him since I was 11 and he was head-over-heels in love with me and I didn’t want anything to do with him. We’ve been married for 14 years and we have one daughter, Alivea. She is 5. We are currently working on the paperwork for our second adoption and hope to give Alivea a new brother or sister is the next year or so. I homeschool Alivea and am addicted to books and root beer.
My blog is called my life (his mission). I took it from the title of a book I read when I was preparing for a missions trip years ago. I liked it because obviously this life is mine but as a Christian I desire for my life to be used by God and therefore for my life to be His mission. Hopefully that desire comes through in my writing. I’ve been blogging for three years and I write about a little bit of everything.
Creative expression is so important to me. In the past few years, as I have begun to understand more about who I am and what makes me happy, I have found that I have to have some creative outlet or I will go crazy. I simply need to make something. I started out just sewing, but now I have begun to embrace writing more as a creative outlet. Creating is such a natural thing for me and I have to take the time to do it. I can feel myself getting stressed out and frustrated when I am too busy to create.
For most moms, multitasking is synonymous with motherhood. What’s been your biggest personal challenge with juggling so many things? Have you found a way to stay balanced? If so, what are some of your strategies?
I struggle with my iphone. It’s so good for my blog and to stay engaged in social media but I feel guilty sometimes about being attached to it so much, when I should be focused on my family. The only thing that has worked for me to keep myself balanced in this area is to physically leave my phone somewhere, like in the kitchen or in my bedroom (even if it’s only for an hour or so). I try to remind myself that years ago people missed phone calls and the world didn’t end. E-mails sat in inboxes for hours or even days and nothing catastrophic happened. It’s really hard sometimes but I know that it’s important.
I find that I am most productive first thing in the morning. I try to get up earlier than Alivea and sneak in some time there. When I’m sewing, I have also begun to include her. I let her push the pedal on my sewing machine and she loves it. And that keeps her involved and makes her feel like she is helping me. It may take a little longer and sometimes I have to rip stitches out but I try to remind myself that I won’t get this time back and she won’t always want to help me sew.
I define success by how my family feels about me. I want them to know they are more important than anything. I want my husband and my daughter to be able to say I was there for them. I don’t care how broke we are. It’s a struggle sometimes because I could work outside the home and obviously make a lot more money. But I won’t get this time back. I cannot reverse time. Alivea will only be this age once. And my husband and I will only be in this life stage for a short time. I don’t want to miss any of it.
Because of our story of being an adoptive family, being a mom is a little different for me. I have a living reminder everyday of how much my Heavenly Father loves me. She is walking around my house and when I look at her and realize how much I would sacrifice for her, then I remember how much He sacrificed for me. It’s overwhelming sometimes. I can’t get away from it and I wouldn’t want to.
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A Question for You:
Social Media can be addictive (an escape) for many. Kerry puts her Iphone in another room to take a break. How do you keep social media in check?